I wonder how , I, or many other humans, react to situations, that are scary, yet, has the potential to deliver an amazing, experience, if explored a little more. Provided, one has the emotional tenacity to remain in the situation, and not escape, due to the fear of either hurting self, or others. ( Topic of this note)

The threshold, that one must cross, to get beyond ones own fears, and generate the capability and capacity to find out more, as to what the situation has to offer, has always been a catch 22, for me.

My quest is to know, How to develop that habit, which automatically, triggers the response, fight, and stick-in, that situation, do not escape?

I personally, do, believe, that all situations are not, that black or white, that they can be catagorised, as either stay, fight it out or escape and do not even weigh the pros and cons of finding out more.

I will try to do little more justice to this subject that , why humans do have this Fear, in the first place?

In my little experience, this happens due to the conditioning of the Personality, ( the nurture part) over time and circumstances.

The DNA, does carry elements of fear in it from the genetic, carry over, point of view, from one generation to the other. But, I feel that whenever, I come into situations, where a conflict can arise, I escape, from that place or company fast, due to my own past, difficult, parental behaviours.

I, can say that generally, iam a brave and confident person, but, as soon and I have to be assertive, I get a naturally, triggered response, from my sub-conscious, “that please don’t assert, you will create an atmosphere of hostility and peace will be disturbed”.

Due to this Fear, I, tend to loose a lot in life. But, I feel that I can overcome this, acquired, Fear.

This, word that I just used, “acquired fear”, can be explained a little further, and I feel that, when humans, get things in their personalities from the society, they can, rub it out of their Personalities, if they try hard enough. The habits, or natural reactions, that one acquires by DNA are difficult to clean out from ones personality. One has to develop the habit of understanding one self to the point that, as soon as a DNA, triggered situation arises, one covers that by, artificially, deliberately, cultivated, mechanisms, that changes the circumstances to win-win for all. Or ends the situation more hounrably and decently, for all parties involved.

In my case, the dna, inherited Anger is a great issue. Where, I react to different situations in a very aggressive manner. Sometimes, I feel these hard reactions, are the, reverse, natural, reaction to overcome the fear that pounces up, due to my Sensitive nature.

I can describe myself as an over sensitive person. (OSP)..And if an OSP, type person, is exposed to scenarios, that tends to make life difficult, I explode.

There, are people , I know, who are also, OSP type, but instead of exploding, in reaction to such situations, they, just go in a shell and refuse to come out. I don’t know, which type of OSP’s are better, …

I can write a lot on this, but, as my note, is not based on research, I will tend to more Philosophical , about this subject, based on my past experiences.

Please excuse me if I have been too subjective, or repetitive, in this note.

Ideally, I had wanted to find an anecdote to Over Come Reactions, based on” Fear of Hurting or Getting hurt”. But, I guess, I have been unsuccessful…So please forgive me.